The Pastor's Wife is NOT A Calling!!!

“And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers; For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ… “

~Ephesians 4:11-12

Where exactly does the title “First Lady” come from or fit in the church? Nowhere, in my opinion. The church wants to be set apart from the world but they adopt so many of their concepts. The Title comes basically from the White House. The “First Lady” comes from the government. 'First Lady' has infiltrated many Churches, it has become prestige, it is however gender driven because when the man is ordained as the Pastor or Bishop, his wife is automatically promoted as the First Lady of the Church.

Early leaders of the church, such as Moses, never refer to his Ethiopian wife as the first lady. However, when a Pastor or Bishop is married his wife assumes a position as a first lady, which is not biblical. One cannot assume a position in Church based on marital status or family connections. In many churches, the first lady is allowed to set their own order and movements in God's house with no given biblical authority. The only authority that they have is that they married a vessel of the Lord.

The title of first lady has become a position that is idolized and sought-after. Some First Ladies have become trendsetters, leading competition in dressing & grooming, which can distract the church from the move of God! So many Church members hold many of them in high esteem and they are the ones who many will listen to for biblical counseling and leadership. Not to sound old school but the bible says ‘Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law.’ (1 Corinthians 14:34-35)

Now let me say this, the pastor’s wife does have a position in the church, but that position is to help make her husband’s job easier. They are to be their husband, counsel, nurse, friend, lover, confidant & help. The pastor’s wife job is to be a servant to the people of God and work with them. She is to work with the people not above them. She is to have the heart of her husband and love the people of God that she works with. But the danger that many churches will face and are facing is the positioning of the wife of a bishop or a pastor as the First Lady, without understanding the implications and pressures that will come with it. The wife is in a role she was never called to do by God and therefore will find herself being judged by God as a leader.

Now I will say that I agree the pastor's wife should set and lead by example the proverbs 31 woman in her life and in her deeds. I don’t want to neglect the fact that some first ladies are called of God and are appointed to positions of minister, elder or co-pastor, in those cases, in my opinion, you are excluded from my argument.
 

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